Sunday, March 29, 2015

Time Away

Being by the water is like taking a deep breath for me.  So after how the last 6 months have gone, floating in the middle of an ocean on a ship was like getting to breathe fresh air for the first time in ages.

When my mom said she needed a warm, tropical getaway and wanted to bring me and my sisters along, I jumped at the chance.

The days were filled with lounging by the pool or looking out over the ocean and the nights were filled with shows, laughs, and entertainment.  There were no meals to prepare, noses to wipe, or fights to break up.

With the removal of the day-to-day duties, I was able to rest and process all that has happened.  It also allowed my sisters and I to deal with some underlying issues that have existed between us all for years.  Is there a family exist that doesn't have stuff to work through?  I think no.

Now I'm back home and back in the thick of fighting children, Scott getting caught up on work, and a messy house.  But I feel revived and ready to take it on.  Not drowning in emotions.  Feeling hopeful.

The nursery door is open, rather than shut hiding all signs of a baby behind it.  I cleaned the room, opened the curtains, and look into it with hope instead of sadness.  I've never felt so ready to bring a baby home, but also don't feel as though all my happiness is wrapped up in it.  It's a good place to be. At least for today.

Friday, March 27, 2015

Drawing Results

I've been overwhelmed by the showing of support we've received!  I only have a few necklaces left out of a large order, so the proceeds covered all our expenses to have our updated profile books reprinted and mailed out.

I did the drawing this morning using a random number generator and the winner is....

Kerry M!

I'll send you a message Kerry so that your prize can head your way!

The necklaces will go out in the mail tomorrow, so they should reach you sometime next week. 

Monday, March 16, 2015

Further Our Understanding

There isn't some place of enlightenment we reach in understanding issues of race.  While I tend toward being outspoken and opinionated, it comes from a place of passion, not being all-knowing.  Here are some articles from which I feel I gained a greater understanding of the current climate and issues.

Why White People Freak Out When They're Called Racist

I do atypical work for a white person, which is that I lead primarily white audiences in discussions on race every day, in workshops all over the country. That has allowed me to observe very predictable patterns. And one of those patterns is this inability to tolerate any kind of challenge to our racial reality. We shut down or lash out or in whatever way possible block any reflection from taking place.
Of course, it functions as means of resistance, but I think it’s also useful to think about it as fragility, as inability to handle the stress of conversations about race and racism
The solution to racism is still, and always will be, the gospel of Jesus Christ. As I write these words, this country is still recovering from Ferguson and the Eric Garner case. There is another racial uproar in Wisconsin due to the recent police shooting of a young black man. Unfortunately, neither unbelievers nor some Christians know how to respond to America’s current racial tensions. Some unbelievers respond with anger and hate. Too many evangelical Christians continue to be either clueless about the race issue or respond with the sin of silence. Although understandable, anger that leads to hate is absolutely wrong. Furthermore, those evangelicals who continue to believe and say foolishly that racial reconciliation is not a gospel issue are as useless on the race issue as those evangelicals who never speak about gospel-centered racial reconciliation until it’s politically convenient for them to do so or until certain high profile white evangelicals or certain white celebrity pastors give them permission do so. Silent evangelicals and evangelicals who do not see racial reconciliation as a gospel imperative hinder the cause of gospel-centered racial reconciliation. 
"The main problem nowadays is not the folks with the hoods, but the folks dressed in suits," says Bonilla-Silva.
"The more we assume that the problem of racism is limited to the Klan, the birthers, the tea party or to the Republican Party, the less we understand that racial domination is a collective process and we are all in this game."
As people talk about what the grand jury's decision in Ferguson means, Bonilla-Silva and others say it's time for Americans to update their language on racism to reflect what it has become and not what it used to be.
The conversation can start, they say, by reflecting on three phrases that often crop up when whites and racial minorities talk about race.

Friday, March 6, 2015

Spring Is Coming

I almost tattooed magnolia blossoms on myself one year.  But who am I kidding?  I'm not the kind of person that commits to a tattoo.  I know myself and my fleeting tastes too well to commit to something like that.

But winter is hard on me.  Not just this winter, which really, if problems could only come when it's beautiful out I would appreciate that.  Please and thank you.

So spring has always carried huge significance for me.  The cold hard ground of winter still exists.  But for some reason, even in the midst of that, spring plants fight against that and crawl out of the ground.  You watch them and fear that another freeze is going to do them in.  But they keep at it anyway.  Putting out buds, shooting up sprouts.

That's what spring feels like for me this year more than ever.  A fight against the freeze of this winter. Willing life to push through.  Knowing the sunshine is coming and it's worth working for.

And every spring I reconsider that tattoo idea.  This year it has shifted beyond just wanting a leafless branch covered in blossoms.  Now I want it to say the word "hope".  I probably won't be brave enough, but it's a nice thought.  Because with spring, comes hope.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Get Fancy for our Adoption


Part of the joy of sharing your story with others is that they feel a part of it, mourn with you, rejoice with you, and support you however they can.

Right now there are a couple entrepreneurial women stepping up to help us cover some of the expenses of adopting.  There are lots of moving parts to make an adoption happen: social workers, office staff, agency directors, counselors, and attorneys.  They all like paychecks, and adoptive families foot the bills for those things.  It can be a daunting sum of money, particularly when you are generally out thousands if you have an adoption fall through (as we have).

Here's how you can help.  I have lots of necklaces to sell.  Lots of them!

They are lovely, but I can't wear all of them myself.  And if you are into essential oils, they are practical too.  They are ceramic, and the back is unfinished, so if you'd like to add a couple drops of oil to it you will be able to smell it all day!

You have 3 lovely options.  Each is beautifully handcrafted and hand painted.  For each donation of $15 you can pick out a necklace of your choice.  Please add $3 to your donation to cover shipping.

The first is this beauty.  I think this may be my new favorite color.

The second will look like this, but say "hope" instead of having a print.  Hope is the word we have been clinging to for months, so wearing it around seemed right.  I know we aren't alone in facing all kinds of trials and we all could use to cling to hope.

*Updated* Here's what they look like!

And finally, for the kids (or you if you prefer tiny pendants), there is this adorable little heart in red.  -

To sweeten the deal, Jami has offered to attach a giveaway for anyone who decides to give us a helping hand! After you decide to grace your neck with one of these lovelies, you will be entered into a drawing to win an essential oils premium starter kit that retails for $150!  You get one entry for every necklace you decide to call your own.  After you buy a necklace to get your first entry, you can get an additional entry into the drawing for each place you share about this sale (blog, facebook, instagram, or twitter).  Please share far and wide either way, because as much as I love these necklaces, I would rather see them gone to you and your friends and adopt a baby!

To enter the giveaway, comment below after you order a necklace.  In your comment you can include where all you shared it!

When you're ready to order, send paypal to  Include in your comments which necklaces you would like.

If you are local in KC and want to pick your necklace up to save yourself some shipping costs, mention that in your comments as well.  If you need a way to pay other than paypal, please email me and we will work something out.

Thank you for helping us bring a new baby home!