Here's a sampling of the last couple days.
- Who's my birth mommy?
- Who's Abraham's birthmommy?
- What color is Abraham's birthmommy?
- Was I brown when I was a baby?
- How was I born?
- How did I come out?
- Why did my hair turn a different color?
- Then why won't my skin turn a different color?
- Why did I stay with you after I was born?
- Why didn't Abraham stay with his birthmommy after he was born?
- Does she miss him?
- Does he miss her?
- Does he want to go back and live with her?
So you know, just some light hearted discussion.
She's also taken to walking up to Black women in public and asking if they are Miss K (Abraham's birth mom). When we attended a graduation party where the girls and I were the only White people, she repeatedly asked me when Miss K would be there and then asked several guests if they were Miss K.
Questions also often revolve around her birthday.
This was her reaction to learning she can only have one birthday a year.
Being open and honest about the realities of adoption with our kids is a very high priority for us. I never pictured it coming out so clearly in a 3-year-olds questions, I pictured myself having to be the one to bring it up via books, questions, and other media. I must say though, it's nice practice to put language to these questions that is digestible for a toddler, while still being truthful and leaving lines of communication open.